You can say a lot of bad things about how men are judgmental about women, but you can’t say that a man judges a woman by her height. You’ll never see a man thinking to himself:
"Oh, wow. She just took off her clothes and is beckoning to me to come into her bedroom. She wants me to stay over and have sex with her tonight. Dammit. If only she wasn’t three inches shorter than me! Better I just go home and watch "The Real Gilligan’s Island" on my Tivo."
What is it with women and their obsession with a man’s height? I don’t think I’ve read one "dating blog" where a woman didn’t complain about one of her date’s height.
"He was too short…"
"He definitely lied about his height in his Jdate profile…"
"If I wanted a midget, I would have fucked someone in the circus…"
What’s the big deal with you women? Haven’t you ever heard the saying, "The best things come in small packages?" Why do you really need a taller man? It’s all in your head. If you need to get something from the top of the refrigerator — that’s why they invented a step stool.
I’m not exactly sure why our culture considers it "better" for the man to be taller than the woman. I looked it up on Google, thinking it may be related to our hunting and gathering days. I didn’t find anything.
And wouldn’t it better if a hunter was shorter? Who’s going to more easily hide behind that rock — Tattoo from Fantasy Island or basketball star Yao Ming?
Hollywood hasn’t help things for shorter men. Even when a male star is short (and many of them are), they need to find a love interest that’s even shorter. Every once in a while, I see a female celebrity shopping in a Beverly Hills supermarket or drinking a coffee in Starbucks. It’s shocking to see how tiny they are. I think in real life, Jennifer Aniston is like 3 feet tall!
One of my best friends from New York is a fairly short guy. He’s married now, with two beautiful children. His wife is taller than him, and she’s never complained.
In fact, when I see this picture of Gary Coleman, I think it would be great to be his height. Never again would a woman say to me, "My eyes are right here, not down there."
(You see, Sophia, I can write a sexist gag as well as the next guy! What do I win?)
NOTE: On reading it again, I don’t think it’s that good of a gag. Could someone help me out with a better line?
Thablock, I couldn’t agree with you anymore.
I was at work the other day. This girl asked me where I get my clothes. I said hunh? What do you mean where do I get my clothes. She said, “your designer jeans are the perfect length”. I was just amazed that somebody could ask such a shortsighted, doltish question. I was nice about it though. Just said, um a place called “the tailor” hems them for me. Funny thing is, I never ever have to look at the length when I buy pants. I just look for the waist, cause at 5ft 3, I always have to get them hemmed.
Short guys have had to put up with a lot of crap throughout their lives. Unless you’re a short guy living where a majority of the population is relatively diminutive, you’ve had to withstand a barrage of teasing about your size throughout your formative years. That builds a thick skin and also helps develop a healthy sense of humor. It’s unfair to a short guy when you name his size as a reason why you won’t date him—I mean, that’s just cruel.
And please don’t give me any crap about how you’d “have to lean down in order to kiss him, and that would be sooooo awkward,” because how do you think tall guys kiss short girls? Yeah. If they can lean forward a little bit, so can you.
I am tired of this: ‘If a woman said she will date only white male she not racist’ what do u people call racism then?? i understand if she said she wont date a short guy but it’s totally racist to exclud other races in dating . Short men i know we screwed but if u cant find any date PORN ARE MADE FOR U watch it if u really need to cum. SLUTS ARE ALSO THERE FOR U . Dont be running behind women like a dog and NEVER COMMIT SUICIDE BECAUSE OF WOMEN !!! u may do that for not getting jobs or not getting promoted. It’s their choises to do not date short men just like it’s your choice to date the kind of women u like. U CANT FORCE THEM , THAT’S NATURAL TO HATE SHORT PEOPLE AND FAT PEOPLE .
Well, apparently, in Atlanta, Georgia where I come from, height always matters when it comes to dating, especially among young people. With me being 5’7 1/2″ to 5’8″, it is difficult to have a steady partner. Most guys often prefer girls who are 5’6″ or below, especially if their height is ranging from 5’8″ to over 6’0″. Sad but honest. I know it really stinks to be a tall, single female but it seems like it’s always going to be this way.
And also, whoever said that French women are taller than American women is wrong. From what I’ve found out, French women are shorter than American women on average, which is 5’1″ or 5’2″.
I read through all the postings and it stirred up lots of emotions inside of me. I’m 5’6″, in my 40′s and not too long ago married a wonderful woman and we now have two great kids. Let me just say this: I now feel like I spent too much of my life feeling resentful and angry over the heightism that exists in our society and over the rejections, real or imagined, that I experienced because of it, especially from women.
Yes, there are many people who have a real prejudice towards short men. Many women have this prejudice when it comes to dating. But you know what? Being bitter and angry about it now (and even when I was single) is like trying to get back at people for their attitudes by drinking poison. I’m in a place now where I simply refuse to surrender my happiness to other people who in the grand scheme of things, really have no meaning or importance in my life. I will simply do my best to live my life as best I can and to instill some strong values in my kids and to teach them that despite the heightism attitudes that exist out in the world, that their worth and value as human beings is not defined solely by their height. If that were ever to be true, then this world really would be a pathetic place.
It’s just too easy to let one’s short stature become a lifelong obsession, to the point that a person could spend their whole life being bitter about the hardships that come with being short, and turning over all of their power to obsessing over it. My advice – don’t let this happen to you. Trust me when I tell you, there are many men and women in this world who will accept you for who you are and see beyond your height. They are out there, and you will find them, if you have the right mental attitude and belief that you are more than just your height.
There is no doubt that short people are victims of discrimination. It is what my website – http://www.supportfortheshort.org is all about. Short men in particular are victims of ‘Heightism’. Heightism is one of the most if not the most unrecognized pervasive prejudice in the world in my opinion. I noticed there are many comments here from women and some of them state that they would not date a man shorter than they are. I have no problems with that. Women can date who they want to date. What I do have problems with is the heightist attitude of society and the heightist attitude of many women towards short men. Short people and short men in particular are victims of discrimination; discrimination that no recognized group would ever tolerate under any conditions. Short people have:
Their competency questioned.
Their credibility questioned.
Their intelligence questioned.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but if you question someone’s competency, credibility, or intelligence based on their skin color, creed, sex, race, national origin, sexual orientation, etc. then you’re guilty of discrimination and there are laws to prevent that. The same should be true of height.
I very much appreciate the intelligent comments of guys like ‘Bruno’, ‘Carl’ and ‘Marcos’. We need more intelligent colloquy on the subject of heightism because the subject of heightism goes beyond dating. It extends into all aspects of life. The most popular sports are Football, Basketball, and WWE, sports that are designed only for Tall and large men. The short man is literally locked out of the board room. Fortune 500 CEO’s are by and large Tall men, and I could go on and on. It’s time for short people and short men in particular to view heightism as a prejudice, instead of a personal weakness to be dealt with exclusively and only on a personal level. I invite you to visit my website at http://www.supportfortheshort.org
Thanks,
Joe
ALMOST EVERYONE IS DISHONEST.