Sometimes, I feel like a phony online.Â There are just too many people out there, and my superficial interactions are not satisfying.Â When I get in this mood, I think I should just focus on a niche — like only reading ultra-serious “writer” types who see their blogging as career-building.Â My first instinct is always to drop the traditional mommybloggers out of my life.Â What do I have in common with them?Â Nothing.Â If we met, what could we talk about?Â Nothing. All they care about is their children.
But then I remember that half of the people who I love and admire — and enjoy — online are these exact types of mothers.Â How did it turn out this way?
Gorillabuns is a blogger from Oklahoma.
She and her husband, Rich, are about to have their third child, and I am participating in this surprise baby showerÂ for her (yes, a baby shower!) along with —
I’ve never been to a baby shower before, so I am very excited.Â Do we do anything really fun, like get naked or give each other sex toys?Â This is my chance to learn.
Like with most bloggers, I don’t remember how I met Gorillabuns.Â Probably through Ms. Sizzle.Â Blogging creates weird blogfellows.Â What I like most about Shana is that she is funny.Â There is nothing sexier to a man than a funny woman.Â Some of the best moments with Gorillabuns did not occur on our blogs, but in emails — we’ve had some amusing discussions about subjects such as marriage, her obsession with rock bands, and especially — juicy blogger gossip.
Why do we connect to one person and not another?Â Is it random?Â Timing?Â Or does each individual have a unique spark that you either see or you don’t?
If I were to follow the advice of ProBloggers, I would not have befriended Gorillabuns.Â She is not in my “niche.”Â I’m not sure IÂ even want my manly Citizen of the Month “brand” to be associated with a bunch of girls involved in a surprise blogger baby shower.
But, you know what — if I was practical about using blogging for career advancement, I would have missed out on the friendship and humor of Gorillabuns, who is one of the coolest people I have met online.
Gorillabuns, may your birth be an easy one (you certainly are experienced already!) and your baby as beautiful as the rest of your family.