Marital Thought of the Day April 18, 2008 / Neil Kramer / 27 Comments Don’t make your spouse your best friend. Who do you talk to when you want to talk about your spouse or your best friend? Share this:FacebookTwitterMoreEmailPrintRedditLinkedIn Men and Women marriage Previous post Today’s Post is Sponsored By… Next post Disney Israel Presents “The Girl Who Didn’t Believe in Passover” 27 Comments Katherine April 18, 2008 at 10:00 am Your therapist? Your mom? Your sibling? When you figure it out, let me know, because I’m in that pickle as well. Reply fringes April 18, 2008 at 10:31 am You talk to each other as friends and as lovers. How can you be one without being the other? Reply Joe Crawford April 18, 2008 at 10:38 am I’m glad you called this a “thought” and not “advice.” Reply AnnieH April 18, 2008 at 10:42 am I thought that’s why we had kids. Reply ajooja April 18, 2008 at 10:57 am I have one close male friend I’ve known since 6th grade. I always considered him my best friend until my wife came along. She’s the smartest, most wonderful person in the world and no one gets me like her. My friend would do anything for me, and me for him, but he knows he’s further down my list than he used to be. I’m further down his list too so it works out fine. I can’t imagine not being married to my best friend. Reply kirida April 18, 2008 at 10:57 am Um, how about random strangers on the internet? Reply Neil April 18, 2008 at 11:07 am Ajooja — Yes, I am actually lucky to have two old friends in NY who I can call anytime. And a cool mother. They’re just best friends in a different way than your spouse. Maybe I just answered my own question. If that doesn’t work, then I’ll start IM-ing everyone on Yahoo. Reply Noelle April 18, 2008 at 11:14 am That’s why I have a cat, I guess. Although I hear dogs are better listeners. Reply di April 18, 2008 at 11:53 am Ernest question to Gert: ‘Do you talk about me to anyone when you’re having trouble with me?’ Gert: ‘No, why?’ Ahhh but was that a safe answer or am I merely perfect? Reply V-Grrrl April 18, 2008 at 12:05 pm Di, you ARE perfect. This is why I tell YOU everything. My husband, on the other hand, is a good man, but is not my best friend. He’s an engineer, I’m a creative type; I’m an introspective thinker; he’s not. There are things I can’t talk to him about. There are a few people I trust with all the stuff he doesn’t “get,” and I LOVE THEM, LOVE THEM, LOVE THEM. Reply Porter April 18, 2008 at 12:49 pm When you figure this one out, please let me know. I’m getting hitched in the fall and I’ll need the answer by then. Thanks. Reply Tuck April 18, 2008 at 1:58 pm People on the subway. Reply Scarlet Hip April 18, 2008 at 2:51 pm My mom or my brothers. Or random strangers I meet in the grocery store. Reply Stacey April 18, 2008 at 3:34 pm Damn, I guess I need more friends. Of course, who needs friends when you’re Neilochka’s Blog Crush of the Day? Reply ali April 18, 2008 at 4:19 pm totally agree. 100%. but now i’ve got to find me a best friend… Reply bookfraud April 18, 2008 at 6:03 pm i guess i’m in trouble, then. does an old friend who has been usurped by the spouse count? and do they have to be human? or even animate? Reply abigail road April 18, 2008 at 11:15 pm I have about 45 friends to call on, whenever I want to talk about anyone. I just have to decide who the lucky person will be, and ring them up. Reply Dave April 19, 2008 at 3:38 am Therapist – and the rest of the troubles go away with drugs and alcohol. Reply Memarie Lane April 19, 2008 at 6:17 am My problem is that my mom is my best friend, so I can’t complain about my mom. And I really really want to sometimes. Reply Judy C April 19, 2008 at 6:19 am I talk to my cat. Is that pathetic or what? Reply ETK April 19, 2008 at 7:40 am So true. Reply better safe than sorry April 20, 2008 at 2:31 am i think anyone who is a good listener, it’s usually more about venting than anything else, i never thought about talking to my dog. now that i think about it, a good talk with her, followed by a long walk to clear my head, would probably do wonders. Reply Aviva April 20, 2008 at 8:58 pm And who helps you keep your head above water when your partner leaves you? Your best friend. Reply Pumpkin April 21, 2008 at 3:59 am I talk to myself. Problem is even I don’t want to hear about it. 😉 Reply melanie April 21, 2008 at 12:38 pm online to strangers that don’t give a damn! :sighs: therapists. Reply HRH @ June Cleaver Nirvana April 22, 2008 at 9:29 am My first thought was this might explain the blogging phenomenon but then when that is examined further that would imply that all those bloggers have spouses who are their best friend. I’ll return my theory hoping that I saved the receipt and can still get my money back. Reply Atomic Bombshell April 22, 2008 at 1:48 pm I usually just pray. Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.