I really like Mocha Momma’s take on BlogHer, in her post “Inclusion and Exclusion.”Â I’ve always been obsessed with this subject — inclusion and exclusion.Â Â Maybe that’s why I’ve been writing so much about BlogHer — a blogging group that is about enpowerment, but alsoÂ about inclusion AND exclusion.
Or maybe I’m still hurt about not being picked for the sixth grade softball team until last.Â
As a child of the 1970s, social studies classes were all about feminism and civil rights, so my early education made this a central theme to my life.Â In the olden times, people were not subtle.Â There were signs that said “no blacks or Jews or women allowed.”Â Those signs are long gone.Â Now, every organization needs to be open to everyone else… at least in the public arena.Â Â
BlogHer is great for women.Â I just thought it was amusing how much effort was spent by some commenters telling me that men were happily welcome!Â The FAQ actually says:
YES! Men are welcome to attend, and many do. About 25% of attendees are male.
25%?Â So, where are all the men in the countless photos on Flickr?Â Were they all in the lounge watching the Cubs playing on the TV?
(via the imperfect mom)
I think it would be better to not even allow men at all.Â What happens if 3/4 of the participants become men?Â Will it still be called BlogHer?
One of my very first posts was about how the Beverly Center in Los Angeles didn’t carry any clothes for women over a size 10-12.Â Â At first, I thought this was because of an image of hipness and youth, but when I thought about it some more, the reason seemed more aboutÂ inclusionÂ and exclusion.Â Â Since so many regular black and Mexican women are larger sizes, the lack of clothes in their size would keep them away — making the Beverly Center more “upscale”Â and less ethnic.Â Â Let “them” shop at Target.Â Â Sophia, who is a size 14, was actually told by the Macy’s sales clerk to go to the Fox Hills Mall, where the clientele was more African-American.Â Â Of course, anyone is welcome to come to the Beverly Center — but if you are size 16, there will be nothing there catering to you!Â
Izzy Mom is a popular mommyblogger who attended BlogHer.Â She had such a good time that she is setting up a mini get-together called Mommycon!
Of course, “you donâ€™t have to be a mom to join in the fun!”
Again, it sounds like a great idea, but I’m beginning to think that modern etiquette requires that everyone practice exclusiveness AND inclusiveness at the same time.Â
Remember, this Saturday — The first Los Angeles meet-up of “Attractive Wealthy Men with Hot Trophy Wives” — but other men who don’t fit this description are welcome to show up.Â Don’t feel uncomfortable or anything.Â Â We are glad to have you hang with us.Â Really.Â Seriously.
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