Every morning, when I turn my IM on, I see Alissa online, probably from her office.Â She can see me online at the same time.Â For weeks, we just stared at each other, neither wanting to bother the other.Â I knew she was there and she knew that I was there.Â Eventually, it just made me feel uncomfortable.Â It was time to take some action —
Neil (via IM):Â “Alissa, we have to do something about this.Â We both see each other.Â We both know we’re online.Â It just seems rude to not say anything.Â Isn’t there some sort of IM etiquette that we can follow?”
Alissa:Â “I don’t think so.”
We came up with a plan.Â We decided it was OK to say “Hello… but now I’m going to ignore you,” the online equivalent of the friendly, but superficial “hello” you might get from someone in the office.
It works for us.Â I think we should all use this technique when we go on IM.Â Isn’t it better to say, “Hi, but I’m now going to ignore you,” rather than just ignoring someone in silence?
While in Starbucks this morning, I sat next to two guys reading the sports section of the LA Times… about Barry Bonds. Â Dodger Stadium has been sold out this week because the Giants are in town and Barry Bonds is just one home run away from tying the record of Hank Aaron.Â But so far, Bonds hasn’t hit any home runs in Los Angeles.
Guy #1:Â Â “I think the Dodgers are doing it on purpose… throwing bad pitches at him.”
Guy #2:Â Â Â “Yeah?”
Guy#1:Â Â Â “It is Major League Baseball. The guys in power don’t want Barry Bonds to succeed. They don’t want him to hit a home run.”
Guy #2:Â Â “The steroids thing?”
Guy#1:Â Â “Nah. It’s because he’s black. And they don’t want to a black man to be the record-holder.”
I think it is apparent that I’m a little down over my situation with Sophia.Â I’ve been trying to think positive thoughts, like in “The Secret,” hoping that laws of attraction will bring me some good news.Â When I came back from Starbucks, I heard Sophia calling to me from upstairs:
“Neil, you got a call from CBS!”
“CBS?!” I asked myself,Â “What could this mean?Â Is CBS reading my blog and now they want to offer me a sitcom based on my life?Â Do they want to hire me to be a writer?Â As a producer?Â Do they want to sponsor BlogHim and make it into a reality show, with me as the host?
I ran upstairs, three steps at a time, reaching Sophia in five seconds flat. I was out of breath.
“CBS called?Â What did they say?Â What did they want?!”
“CBS called?” asked Sophia. “No.Â I said CVS called.Â Your cholesterol medicine is ready.”
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