In all my years of blogging, I have never written anything with the aim of inspiring you. It’s not my style. I’m not a teacher or an advocate. I don’t consider myself inspirational.
But that changes today.
The night started with my own search for inspiration. I’ve been feeling scared lately, fearful, unable to take steps that could improve my life. I searched online for advice. Through Google, I found all sorts of gurus, wannabe gurus, psychologists, happiness experts, and thought leaders who were eager to help me. These articles were written by two categories of authors — those who never faced fear, and those who learned to overcome it. Whether written as longform or Buzzfeed listicle, on an academic website or online women’s magazine, the advice was always remarkable similar, pretty much expanding on Nike’s advertising copy of “Just Do It.”
“You can’t succeed without failure.
You will never know until you try.
Change your way of thinking.
Fight the fear and do it anyway.
Twelve Ways Successful Entrepreneurs Win at Business.
Get the Love You Deserve By Risking it All.”
All night I read articles that felt cold against my skin, clichés tossed at me to sell e-books or writers promoting themselves. I was not inspired by someone who once feared air travel and now jumps out of an airplane every day at lunch. What if you’re still finding it hard to call up American Airlines to change a flight?
These articles just made me feel inept.
“Just do it,” they said. That sells stuff.
“Fuck you. I can’t do it yet,” I answered. That will never sell anything.
So, I am here to talk to those who fear change, risk, or rejection. I cannot tell you to fight that fear, because I have not done so myself. I give you no tips on how to overcome obstacles because I frequently falter.
My only inspirational message is this — if you fear something, you should feel it. That’s it. Save fighting it for another day. Just feel the fear. And know that others feel it too. That’s my inspirational message. It’s the only way I can help you.
That is what I was searching for tonight. And since I could not find that inspirational article on any website, I wrote it myself.