When you walk into a room — a party, a new office, an interview, a meeting, a dinner with friends — do you tend to (the majority of times):
1)Â feel “better” than the othersÂ (I’m smarter, saner, better-looking, richer, have better behaved kids, have more followers on Twitter),
2)Â feel “less” than others (they’re smarter, richer, better-looking, better writers, have Dooce’s phone number, skinnier, have bigger penises)
3)Â or feel that since everyone is different, you have a unique set of values and talents to offer, which makes you as interesting and sexy as everyone else, and if others don’t see it, there isn’t much you can do, and besides, we all drop dead eventually anyway, so at least we all have that in common?
I know many of us think #3.Â But does anyone really FEEL #3?Â And are #1 and #2 basically the two sides of the same coin?