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V-grrrl’s Wonderful Heart

Copyright 2010 Veronica McCabe Deschambault (V-grrrl). Image may not be copied/reproduced, online or in print, without written permission.

My good blogging friend V-grrrl is having surgery this week for atrial fibrillation of the heart.  She’s been waiting four months to have this done.

Now, God loves to throw in obstacles.   Surgery is just not enough drama.  Why not have a volcano with an unpronounceable name, Eyjafjallajökull, blow up a week before the surgery, stranding her husband in Europe until four days AFTER the the scheduled surgery?

Luckily, V-grrrl’s brother is coming down from New York to help.


Good luck, V!


V — Before your surgery, I wanted to leave you with something inspirational, something to think about in case you get nervous before the procedure.  Unfortunately, I’m not very good at pep talks or new age sentiments.  Instead, I’d like to share with you this comment I received today on on a four year old post from a writer named Shane.  I think he says it better than I ever could in a stand-alone blog post.

From a comment on “Briefs or Boxers.”

What’s ironic about this is that a generation ago all guys wore plain white briefs.  It meant you were athletic and confident. Boxers were for old men and fat guys.  During the last 20 years there’s been a total reversal of this. I vote for briefs because they provide support. The sperm-count thing has actually been proven a myth, and in any case, what young guy actually wants to get a girl pregnant?  If you wear boxers your balls will hit the floor by old age. Plus, there not at all suitable for sports or anything athletic. The pendulum is swinging back towards fashionable briefs. Boxers only became popular in the early 90’s because of the baggy jeans style. They have no real function, except maybe as sleep-wear.  If a girl rejects you because of your underwear – find someone better.

Remember that.  If a girl rejects you because of your underwear – find someone better.  Translation — the wise man cares less about the material of the house, then finding a way inside!

Wait, what does this have to do with your surgery?  Well, actually nothing.  I SAID I wasn’t very good at pep talks.

Stay Strong.


  1. Chris

    Perfect title. From reading V’s past comments on your blog, I imagine she’ll adore your pep talk. Pulling for you, V!

  2. Juli Ryan

    I heart V-Grrrl’s heart. Thinking of you, V!

  3. alejna

    That pep talk works for me! I’m sure V-grrrl will find it bracing.

    I’ll be rooting for her, too.

  4. teahouseblossom

    How lovely. You are a good friend, Neil!

    Also, I’m partial to those boxer/brief thingies that are tight like briefs at the top, but have long legs like boxers. Yummy.

  5. Slow Panic

    Wow. Shane has got some time on his hands.

    V-grrrl is lucky to have such a friend as you.

  6. wendy

    V….thinking of you…Neil, great post…
    I am always thinking sperm count these days….just not HUMAN sperm….

    Briefs are funny, but probably better.
    Like a good bra for your balls.

    support is where its at, man.

    V..I hope all of this makes you laugh

  7. V-Grrrl @ Compost Studios

    Dear Neil,

    The discussion of boxers vs. briefs was more apropros than you can imagine. This is a catheter procedure involving, um, groin incisions (and medical students watching on film).

    I’m here to report that post-surgery, boy briefs are best.

    You’re welcome.

    Thanks for the good wishes. Will send you photos of my super cool, super southern luxury hospital suite. XO


  8. Heart Shaped Hedges

    Hey Neil,
    I hope your friend’s surgery went well.

    It was nice meeting you last night! Im having a giveaway…I hope you’ll stop by…if underwear doesnt make her smile, maybe some chocolate will.

  9. Pearl

    Neil, your heart is in the right place as you try to give V-GRRL a pep talk before her surgery. Everyone needs a Neil Kramer in their life! 🙂

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