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I heard you all and listened.  Today I went out and bought my first pair of boxer-briefs. 

I am now a complete man.

Initial reactions to the big news:

Sophia:  Nice.

My Mother:  You paid fourteen dollars for one pair?!

My Friend Rob:  Are you sure David Sedaris started out by writing about his underwear?



  1. Mel

    You should post a pic…

  2. Tatyana

    She said nice when you demonstrated?

  3. brando

    oh, you messed up, dude. you should have went with pouch-less.

  4. sara lee

    Oh Neil, This is a very good change! Briefs are not attractive on any man…but boxer briefs…ummm I am at work…I need to calm down. 😉

  5. The Retropolitan

    Pouch? Like a marsupial?

  6. Neil

    disclaimer: man in photo wears same briefs as neilochka, but powerful biceps not necessarily included in package

    Brandon and Retro — you mean there are ones without a pouch? When did men’s underwear become so complicated? Damn metrosexuals…

    Tatyana — Because, like everything else, it is always your MOTHER’S fault. She is the one who put me down the path to wearing white briefs. She spent all this money on giving me a fancy education and dragging me to concerts at Lincoln Center, but always bought me the same underwear — never making me realize that there were other options out there. Thank you for all for finally releasing me from the clutches of this controlling woman! See you for Passover, Mom.

  7. Tanya

    Neil. Why are you discussing your underpants with your mother?

  8. claire

    I love Jockey, but $14 for 1 pair is steep. What I discovered is that Jockey has a subsidiary or related company that sells the exact same underwear for less than I could buy Jockey on sale under the name FormFit. While you might buy Jockey at Macy’s, you’d find FormFit at Target. I don’t know if the men’s line carries over too, but it’d be worth a look if you decide to stock up.

  9. Kevin

    Woo hoo! Congrats. How do you like the “support”?

  10. Won't tell

    Those don’t count.

    Boxer Preservation Society

  11. Leesa

    So when do we get a viewing??

  12. jenny

    I have three words for you, Neil:




  13. Alissa

    I second Jenny’s comment and will add another “T”


  14. better safe than sorry

    well, i guess it’s something, i would have picked something a little snazzier for you, a bit more colour. maybe you can get a pair with shamrocks on them for st. pattys in a few weeks;)

  15. Kestrel

    What, you’re not going to model them for us?

  16. Tatyana


    Did I say a word about your mother?

  17. Sandra

    Please, please, please keep us posted on the comfort level of your new underwear — I’m rather curious. And although it sounds like I’m being sarcastic, I mean it. Which is probably a little bit weird.

  18. Needra

    oh my goodness… i can’t stop laughing… “Pouch? Like a marsupial? ” that is priceless!

    but… like someone already stated… they are HOT!!! Good choice Neil.

  19. Tanya

    You don’t even know my name anymore Neil. Sigh.

    Also, the Calvins are a better fit than the Jockeys. Or so I’ve been told.

  20. brando

    wow. i guess if anyone wanted to make a move to wrest tanya’s and tatyana’s affections away from neil, NOW WOULD BE THE TIME.

  21. Brooke

    Ah Neil, is there no mystery to you?

  22. Carly

    Jackpot. I recommend the Calvin Kleins with the red band, and ones from Lulu Lemon. Your boys will thank you.

  23. ashbloem

    Wait, so you don’t really wear the ones with the explosion graphic across the crotch?

    Fucking tease.

  24. Neil

    Sorry, Tanya, about the mix-up. I love your blog so much that I read all of you archives over and over again, which must be making my vision blurry — so I misread Tanya as Tatyana.

    But be assured that I never mistakenly say the wrong woman’s name during important times, like moments of passion.

  25. ball-and-chain

    And now you look like the guy on the package, right?

  26. lizriz


    Excellent choice.

  27. Neil

    So, let me understand this. I went from being a momma’s boy in tighty-whiteys, or whatever you called them, to a hunk who’s hotter than Brad Pitt JUST BECAUSE I changed my style of underwear? This is like the most amazing thing that ever happened to me? Where were you earlier in my life?

    Now, I’m going to go ride up and down in my elevator and see if any women throw themselves at me.

    One more question. I’m supposed to wear pants over these underwear, right?

  28. Wendy

    Before you get too big for your britches, my little boys wear those too.

  29. He's Dead, Jim!

    Boxer briefs are the WAY TO GO.

  30. anne arkham

    Neil: Just one pair? You’re only going to be cool one day a week?

    Brando: Requesting more info on the pouch/pouchless thing, please.

  31. Nancy


    So, do they feel better when you wear them?


  32. brando


    pouch is to pouchless as crotch is to crotchless.

    well, that’d be the theory, anyway…

  33. ChickyBabe

    Woohoo! Another boxer brief convert!

  34. Neil

    Anne: Didn’t you ever hear of a test drive?

    Brando: What do you think is the cultural moment when boxer briefs became the thing? The famous Calvin Klein ads? I know in film school I learned that after Clark Gable didn’t wear a t-shirt in “It Happened One Night” no one wore t-shirts under their dress shirt anymore, which was unheard of before. Although Snopes has some problems with this theory.

  35. brando

    all i know is that boxer briefs are out. it’s either knit or microfiber boxers (they’re not traditional boxers, nor are they tighty like boxer briefs).

    boxer briefs, i’m sorry to say, are old news.

  36. Neil

    Brando — I live in a part of Los Angeles where I’m surrounded by gay men. You live by some isolated lake in the Pacific Northwest, along with the wolves. Why do you know this and not me?

  37. Jaclyn

    All of this reminds me of the first time I attempted folding the family laundry when I was about 10 years old. It had to have been my first encounter with men’s underwear and I remember exclaiming to my mother, “These all have a little pocket in the front! Cool!”

  38. Fitèna

    lol! pouch like a marsupial! lol! You people are too much!
    I wanna see!!!!! (the new you!)


  39. Bill

    Actually, I’ve heard longjohns are making a comeback. Though that may have something to do with shooting movies like Brokeback Mountain in places like Alberta.

  40. helen

    No pictures?? where got complete??
    ** demands refund **

  41. Melissa

    Went with the medium and not the large?

  42. Neil

    Good eye, Melissa!

  43. Eve

    You are welcome, Neil. And you know what I am talking about.

  44. modigli

    Ooooh! How about posting a picture in your new skivvies taken with your free Sprint phone?! 😉

  45. Tatyana

    Just found (through somebody in Germany) – another argument for fitted boxers.

  46. Neil

    That was so funny! I wonder why Sophia told me to wash the windows in my new underwear!

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