Today is my birthday. If you asked me a year ago where I would be on my birthday, I certainly would never guess that I would be sitting in Boca Raton with my mother AND Sophia, who flew in all the way from Los Angeles just for my birthday. I’m not in a talkative mood lately, so I’ll tell you more about Century Village later in the week. Sometimes I feel pressured to write something here, thinking that if I don’t blog at least three times a week, you will abandon me, which is probably true, but it is also important to remind myself that I exist outside of this blog.
Today, Sophia, my mother, and I took a drive into West Palm Beach, once the home to the rich and famous, now a city taken in by Ponzi Schemes, and checked out two museums, The Flagler and the Norton. We also found an ice cream parlor where the chocolate ice cream was deemed by People Magazine as the “best in the country.”
March 7th is also the birthday of my blog. I started Citizen of the Month on my birthday in 2005. My template is exactly the same today as it was on that day four years ago, having spent the day before my birthday in 2005 “designing” my header in Illustrator. It amuses me that so little has changed with my blog in those four years. There is still no advertising, and the blog remains consistently uneven, ranging from the stupid to the emotionally distraught.
I’m not particularly proud of my last year as a blogger. I spent too much time on Twitter and ignored my blogging friends. Twitter is so focused on “followers,” that I began to perceive some bloggers as more worthy of my attention than others, as if networking and cliquishness was the ‘real’ point of being online, not the writing, or the community spirit. I believe the online world has given me the opportunity to become a better person, not a worse one, and I failed considerably. I might seriously dump Twitter when I return to New York, because I don’t like myself when I am Twittering.
I am inspired by those of you who blog honestly, comment freely, and show a sense of community. I look up to you. As I enter my fifth year of blogging, I want to thank you for another year as my blogging friends.
I’d never abandon you, but if you dump twitter I may fly out to NY and kick your ass. Happy birthday, Neil. Hope this next year is a good one.
Happy Birthday Neil
Eat Cake … lots of it.
I hope that you have an awesome birthday and well…I LIKE you being on Twitter.
Happy Birthday. I am a new reader to your blog so that goes to show if you lose some readers you will acquire some too. Life is a balancing act and I guess blogging in a way might be the same? I don’t know. I blog honestly, as you say, I have no idea if anyone reads it. The way I see it, just like in life I will appeal to some people more than others and some of them will stick around while others will drift away.
Happy Birthday again and have fun writing.
Happy Birthday, my friend! I hope you are living it up in Florida with all the ladies (I’m sure there’s at least one hot nurse taking care of a geriatric around there.)
I can say with utmost certainty, you will not lose any of your true blogging friends if you choose to take a break. It has been so liberating to step away and take care of more important things that I’d been neglecting. And, I don’t miss Twitter AT ALL. In retrospect, there’s something to be said for not saying every 140 characters that pops up in your head.
Have a great birthday! I’ll be thinking of you…
I’m glad to have you on Twitter, but understand if you need to drop off it. I’ve seen some other bloggers take a break and wonder if I should as well.
Either way, I’m here, I’m reading and I’m sending lots of birthday wishes your way.
Oh Neil…you know how ambivalent I am about social media. I can’t really decide if it’s a place for writers or just people marketing themselves or their blog as a product. And it bugs me, on some old-school (old-fashioned? outdated?) level, when writers become product. Then again, maybe I’m just wrong in my thinking that a blog is is anything like a short-story collection.
I have no advice. I hate Twitter. I keep trying it, though, because I’m an idiot. Facebook feels more personal and less “look at me! look at me!” – but then I hear it’s now been given the death knell because it’s a favorite of old people.
No advice, just my continued best wishes.
Congratulations on 4 years, oh, and incidentally, Happy Birthday! Hope it’s memorable!
I started blogging in 2005 as well. I just ended up moving around a bit.
Happy birthday to you and your blog!
!!!Happy Birthday Neil!!!
So glad that I “found” you.
I have to say, I hope ALL the twitterers go back to blogging
Happy birthday, Neil!
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday Neil. M xx
Birthday Wishes!
I would never have characterized your blog as “consistently uneven.” I really enjoy the varied aspects of “you.”
I just noticed the itty bitty smile on the bottom of this page – subliminal influence?
Happy Birthday! Enjoy Florida!!
Happy Birthday to a new friend I made last year! I am so happy yr here and I know yr fifth year of bloggin will be awesome! I hope today is stellar!
Happy birthday, Neil.
Just don’t ask me to dress up like a mommyblogger for your birthday this year. I have some limits.
I selfishly hope you don’t give up Twitter, although I am feeling ambivalent toward it myself lately. I enjoy your tweets more than most anyone’s, and that’s how I discovered you to begin with. But do what you have to do.
Happy birthday.
Abandon you?!
I just woke up, reached for my phone, logged into my reader, saw a new post from you,and pounced. Yours is a fresh, original, unique voice (even after all these years! Don’t you know how rare that is?) I’m not going anywhere.
I’d tell you to ease up on yourself but my sense is it’s a trait that adds to your gift, and I’m selfish.
Happy birthday, my friend. Enjoy Boca Raton. Live your life. You are loved, and by many, exactly as you are.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Neil, and I wish you many more to come.
The more I read about Twitter, the less interested I become. Facebook is enough!
Okay, the question we’re all dying to ask…is it really the BEST CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM IN THE COUNTRY?? Cause if so y’all are getting some drop-in company.
Have a fab birthday, Neilochka. 25th?? :>)
PS. Twitter remorse?? I’m so old school I feel guilty about the time spent blogging. xxxoooo
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday Neil.
Please stop beating yourself up.
come what may, have a happy birthday, neil. and celebrate with some toojays.
Happy Birthday! Congratulations on four years of blogging – that’s great!
Your blog inspires me. I like that you’ve kept it simple (although I would read if you chose to change the layout and sell advertising too) and I like that your content varies. I feel welcome commenting, on occasion a bit out-gunned with the brain power and “real writers” who hang out here, but always encouraged to “Say It!”. I believe you’re sincerely on the side of anyone trying to cultivate a creative voice, regardless of the audience size and demographic they choose or are able to attract.
Today I’ll celebrate you, Neil. I hope you have a wonderful day in Florida with your mother (I still think of her in the photo you posted, working at her desk, a younger woman with a cigarette in her hand) and Sophia. All the best to you in the coming year!
Happy Birthday!
Never forget you should do what makes YOU happy…within reason of course.
Happy Birthday, Neil! I’m glad your ladies are with you.
Work had me consumed yesterday and I missed your birthday. . . HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!
I hope this year is one of your best.
Happy happy birthday! (btw I have to limit myself on twitter because otherwise I cease to exist basically offline – which is bad when you have a toddler trying to eat your earplugs)
Happy Birthday!
Long time reader, first time commenter here.
It’s my birthday too.
happy birthday, i’m glad you are spending it with the two most important and loved women in your life.
Happy BIrthday! My eyes threatened to spill tears when I read that Sophia joined you in Florida. Before blogging, I would have thought it crazy to cry happily for folks I don’t know. Well, Ira Glass induces good crying, but, oh gosh, you know what I mean. I’m all a babble!
Those of us who know Century Villages cannot get enough stories. My mom left South Florida and know she is in the Villages. That place is a royal hoot too. There are more golf carts than vehicles in the Publix parking lot.
Can you imagine our retirement villages? Hipster culture? It actually wouldn’t be too difficult to design our communities.
Happy Birthday! I’m over the moon for you!
Sorry for the poor writing. You deserve more effort.
Century Village! Oh my, what memories. My best friend’s grandmother had a place there and we spent quite a few vacations there.
Happy bloggy birthday and happy birthday, Neil.
Your sentiments on Twitter? Wordy McWord.
happy birthday neil. I’ve missed you about…
Happy Birthday Neil to one of my favorite men! Wishing you lots of love and happiness on this special day and always!!! Many more happy birthdays to you sweetness!
Happy birthday to you and your blog!
Happy Birthday, happy blogging anniversary, all of it…!
Do not beat yourself up. We all fall into the blogging trap. At least you are reflecting with warmth and kindness and humanity. I just rage over it and what good does that do? None at all.
I liked your updates on twitter too, btw. I took a twitter break because I found myself just being mean about what I thought was stupidity, and I don’t want to be mean anymore.
You are lovely, Neil. Let yourself off the hook.
Happy Birthday, Neil!
Name me one blogger who hasn’t gotten their head stuck up their ass as far as perspective and losing it goes. There aren’t any. Happens to everyone, so don’t knock yourself too hard.
Happy Birthday, love!
Happy Birthday Neilochka!
Happy birthday, Neil. I love your blog and love the community that we are all a part of. Sure, write more if you want but you can’t leave us all together. We love you too much!
Hope you had a wonderful birthday and will have a great year ahead!
Happy Birthday, Neil.
We all have periods of time where we think that “more” is better and then we think that the more “popular” the blogger, the better for us. I went through that stage and am so very glad to be out of it. I’ve now started downsizing and getting back to my roots and it feels damned good.
I hope you rind yours too.
Felliz Cumpleanos Neil!
Enjoy your day!
Happy Birthday to you and your blog! I’m glad to have met you, Neil, and feel fortunate to call you a bloggy friend and a Twitter friend.
Stay honest. I look forward to meeting you in July at BlogHer.
Happy Birthday! I’ve recently started hitting your blog, and I’m glad I found it!