We all are apt to say stupid or contentious things at some part of our internet lives. What should be the best policy for dealing with it? What makes the internet a better place?
Let’s come up an example.
I come home from a bad date, drunk and angry, and I write some insulting message on Facebook, “All women care about is money. Especially Canadian women. They’re the worst.”
Don’t worry. I didn’t really say that. Whether I believe it or not about our friends to the North — you will never know. But pretend I DID write this on Facebook. And this pisses you off. A lot. How would you respond, and which method makes for a better internet?
1) You immediately unfriend me.
2) You make the public comment, “Neil, are you drunk?”
3) You make the public comment, “Neil, as a Canadian woman I can assure you that this is false, and I am insulted by your comment.”
4) You DM me and ask, “Neil, are you drunk?”
5) You DM me and ask, “”Neil, as a Canadian woman I can assure you that this is false, and I am insulted by your comment.”
6) You write a public vaguebooking message of you own, some “The hatred of all things Canadian is alive and well tonight on the airwaves. I wish I could shove some poutine up this guy’s scrawny ass!”
7) You write a public blogpost, calling the person out, “Neil Kramer is a blogger in New York. He has a small brain and a small dick. He also knows nothing about women. Or Canada. Here’s why and here is his blog…”
8) You ignore it.
Which would be your approach? Which approach is best for the internet? Does it all depend on our level of friendship with the writer?