the writing and photography of Neil Kramer

The Family Nose


In the last couple of days, there have been several comments on this blog about Sophia looking like my mother.  That’s just crazy!   Sophia and my mother look nothing alike.   Why would anyone marry someone who looked like his mother?  That would mean… that this person wanted to… that…  I just can’t even put the words together because it is so unspeakable.


Sophia and my mother don’t look anything alike.   Really.   None of us think it is true.   If anyone looks like my mother, it is me.    The proof is in the photo on top, taken at the Dominican coffee shop where we ate breakfast this morning.


  1. abigail road

    I’m with you, Neil. You look like your mom, Sophia doesn’t.

  2. Ash

    Such a sweet photo Neil 🙂

  3. OMSH

    Hey, in THAT photo she/they did. In this photo YOU do, but of course I would expect that.

    It isn’t really that odd for a spouse to closely reflect a parent in looks, personality, style.

  4. OldOldLady Of The Hills

    I think it is a toss up! The three of you look alike! (lol)

    A Merry Christmas, my dear….Hope you have a swell day!

  5. Finn

    You look like your mom — and a bit of your dad.

    It’s really obvious in the first picture of your last post. Now I see where you get your great smile from!

  6. Kyran

    your mom is beautiful. I would marry her.

  7. Marilyn

    I think you both look like her. 🙂

  8. Irina

    OK, so I’m not crazy, and other people have also noticed the resemblance between Sophia and your mom! : )

  9. 180/360

    I agree that you look just like her. And I love birth noses. Merry Christmas, Neil! Hope you are having a great time in NY.

  10. sizzle

    i never thought sophia looked like your mom but you two sure resemble one another in that pic. great shot! hope you are having fun with her and being back in NY.

  11. LVGurl

    Awe!! Your mom looks so sweet in the picture!

    And why are you so dang funny?

  12. therapydoc

    I don’t see it. But it’s sweet that you think so, no?

  13. V-Grrrl


    I hate to say this when you’re away from your therapist… but….but…I…think you’re adopted!

  14. Ellen Bloom

    OK…the photo of your Mom and Dad at the tiki lounge says it all. Looks like your Mom was a bit younger than Sophia is now in that pic. The resemblance is uncanny. I am an artist, I notice these things. You have excellent taste in women, Neilochka! Happy Holidays to ALLLLL of you!

  15. tamar

    is that a hat or your hair?

  16. di

    Ummm maybe it’s just that they are beautiful? I think that’s what they mean.

    Happy Christmas Neil 🙂

  17. merrymishaps

    I wish I could embrace it, but have inherited my nose from the Italian side of my family. I try to hide my profile whenever posible 🙂

  18. merrymishaps

    Of course, I mean “possible.” It’s Christmas, I may have had some wine …

  19. Neil

    Tamar, that is what my hair looks like when I take off my $3.99 winter hat.

  20. Jennifer

    It’s a good thing you have facial hair because otherwise I’m not sure I could have distinguished between the two of you!! My son looks like me as well, so I guess that’ll be us in thirty years or so!! Happy non-denominational holiday!!

  21. tongue in cheek

    you all three look alike.
    All beautiful.
    It is in the heart
    that look of happiness
    and love.

  22. Geeky Tai-Tai

    I really like this photo of you and your mom.

  23. DrowseyMonkey

    Hmmm…I know I’m new to your blog…and haven’t read ALL your posts…but based on the few pics I’ve seen scrolling…they do look a little bit alike. But you look like your mom too. So maybe you didn’t marry someone who looks like your mom…rather you married someone who looks like you. Does that help? No?

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