Comment on Backpacking Dad‘s post on California Supreme Court’s decision on Proposition 8 —
I’m saddened by today’s decision but optimistic that, in time, a few more old conservative California bigots die off and a new wave of young liberals will take their place and overturn this embarrassing discriminatory law.
I remember people getting pissy at me after Proposition 8 passed in California in November because I mentioned something I read in the LA Times — that the proposition passed because traditionally-oriented, religious citizens of the state weren’t comfortable with gay marriage, including a very large percentage of African-Americans and Mexican-Americans.  They voted for Proposition 8 because, on average, they tend to be more traditional and religious.  I’m not sure why this upset people at the time.  I was just trying to spread the blame!  Just like it is great for America to have an African-American president, it is a credit to our democracy when all ethnic and racial groups can vote as stupidly as the majority.  This is called normalcy.
Voting is as close to a spiritual experience as you can get in America, so I tend to agree with the California Supreme Court’s decision not to overturn Proposition 8.  I know this is an unpopular thing to say, and this has nothing to do with my feelings about gay rights or gay marriage. This has to do with my belief in the sacredness of voting. The idiotic citizens of California voted for Proposition 8.   For the State Supreme Court to overturn the vote of the people, they must have a very strong legal reason to do so on the state level, and they didn’t have one.  This is an issue that needs to go to the United States Supreme Court, so THEY can rule it as unconstitutional.  Or Californians need to wait until next time to fight it in another vote.
So who should we be angry at because of this injustice? When I read quotes online saying “I hate California,” “Shame on California,” etc., I am unclear who we are talking about? All of California? Me? White male executives? Old Conservative Bigots?
I know I don’t have any close friends who voted for Proposition 8.  I even know Republicans who believe in the rights of gays to legally marry.  Is it the fault of the California Supreme Court?  No. They are intelligent scholars doing their job, which is to uphold the law, not to do what people on Twitter think is popular.  They need to have some legal reason to be activist, or else the the will of the people becomes meaningless.
California is a big state with a lot of different types of people. If you really want to be angry at someone, try the religious establishment — of all races and ethnicities and religions — old AND young — who continue to make this “gay marriage issue” into a political issue.   Don’t they have something better to do with their time?
“The word boycott entered the English language during the Irish “Land War” and is derived from the name of Captain Charles Boycott, the estate agent of an absentee landlord, the Earl Erne, in County Mayo, Ireland, who was subject to social ostracism organized by the Irish Land League in 1880. In September that year protesting tenants demanded from Boycott a substantial reduction in their rents. He not only refused but also evicted them from the land. Charles Stewart Parnell, in his Ennis Speech proposed that, rather than resorting to violence, everyone in the locality should refuse to deal with him. Despite the short-term economic hardship to those undertaking this action, Boycott soon found himself isolated—his workers stopped work in the fields and stables, as well as the house. Local businessmen stopped trading with him, and the local postman refused to deliver mail.
The concerted action taken against him meant that Boycott was unable to hire anyone to harvest the crops in his charge. Eventually 50 Orangemen from Cavan and Monaghan volunteered to harvest his crops. They were escorted to and from Claremorris by one thousand policemen and soldiers—this despite the fact that Boycott’s complete social ostracism meant that he was actually in no danger of being harmed. Moreover, this protection ended up costing far more than the harvest was worth. After the harvest, the “boycott” was successfully continued. Within weeks Boycott’s name was everywhere. It was used by The Times in November 1880 as a term for organized isolation.”
Some famous boycotts:
African Americans during the US civil rights movement;
the United Farm Workers union grape and lettuce boycotts;
the American boycott of British goods at the time of the American Revolution;
the Indian boycott of British goods organized by Mohandas Gandhi;
the antisemitic boycott of Jewish-owned businesses in Nazi Germany during the 1930s;
the Arab League boycott of Israel and companies trading with Israel;
the Arab countries crude oil embargo against the West of 1973;
the US-led boycott of the 1980 Summer Olympics in Moscow;
the Soviet-led boycott of the 1984 Summer Olympics in Los Angeles;
the movement that advocated “disinvestment” in South Africa during the 1980s in opposition to that country’s apartheid regime.
Boycotts employ intimidation. The goal of a boycott is to change business or governmental practices.
Do you know about the Motrin Twitter Drama? A large group of mothers were extremely upset about this Motrin advertisement which was found insulting to mothers.
The blogosphere and Twitterverse are all a buzz with Motrin’s condescending ad regarding babywearing moms…
Moms might be wondering, apart from spreading the word about this (which we’ve already done an awesome job of) and contacting Motrin, what else can we do?…
Here’s my suggestion, you can start by boycotting Motrin, but before you reach for a bottle of Tylenol instead, read on. Johnson & Johnson owns both Motrin AND Tylenol, so if you truly want to boycott them, you need to avoid both.
Eventually the Twittering Moms scared Motrin, and they pulled the ad. Whether you agree with this action or not, this threat of a Motrin boycott was a legitimate use of consumer (and political) might.
Boycotts employ intimidation. The goal of a boycott is to change business or governmental practices.
On the other hand, I found this boycott disturbing.
Some gay marriage supporters are calling for a boycott of El Coyote Cafe [a popular restaurant in Los Angeles] after learning that manager, and reportedly partial owner Marjorie Christoffersen donated $100 to Proposition 8 group ProtectMarriage.com.
I have seen a number of articles recently where gay activists in CA have outed those who donated money to Proposition 8, calling for a boycott of their businesses.
Again —
Boycotts employ intimidation. The goal of a boycott is to change business or governmental practices.
This Mexican restaurant is not discriminating against gays. One partial owner donated $100. Do we want Republicans boycotting Democratic-owned laundromats or refusing to sit in a restaurant with Libertarian waiters?
As you know, I was vehemently against Proposition 8. But it was a legal election, and the wrong side won. It is time for those involved to get to work, pushing for gay marriage, working within the system and persuading voters. A boycott of an establishment because of one individual’s VOTE is the worst kind of intimidation. It is against this individual’s free speech. This individual is not a power broker. No one should be afraid of voting what they believe, fearing they will lose their job or be blacklisted in an industry. Going against the Mormon Temple tax-exempt status is one thing, but attacking a religious individual because of his beliefs is Un-American.  You are not going to change this individual’s mind. Some religious people just believe that marriage shouldn’t be re-defined to include same-sex marriages. Start persuading others rather than seeking revenge.
I hate to bring this up, but if you don’t know, this month is the 70th anniversary of Kristallnacht in Germany. The tone of this post is strongly influenced by that fact, even though I know it is a bit irrational to connect these threads. On a single night in 1938, 92 Jews were murdered by the Gestapo and angry mobs, 25,000–30,000 were arrested and deported to concentration camps, 200 synagogues were destroyed, and thousands of Jewish businesses and homes ere ransacked. I went to a memorial/conference this weekend that was attended by many survivors.  Scary and sad stuff!  But it got me thinking — bad economic times and contentious political activity always make me wary. People get angry and frustrated, especially with those with differing views.  Is there already this combative feeling in the air?  I doubt our society would ever become as ugly as that of 1930’s Germany, but I hope we all remember the lessons of the past — the importance of seeing the humanity in others, whether it is a Republican or Democrat, a clueless New York copywriter writing Motrin commercials, a gay man wanting to marry his partner, or a Mormon donating $100 to a stupid cause.
Neil Kramer has been writing about his life online since 2005. He has worked for Disney and HBO. Neil lives in NYC. You can contact him at neilochka on yahoo.