Are you an intelligent, realistic person with clear insights and excellent memory?Â
We tend to remember slights and frustrations more than favors and kindnesses.Â So inevitably in a marriage the weight of negative remembrances of thing past comes to exceed that of the positive.Â Divorce is the result.
The secret to a good marriage, therefore is selective forgetfulness.Â Coincidentally some psychologists have recently come to the same conclusion.Â The couples who stay together are the delusional ones – the ones who look at their past with rose-colored glasses.
Psychologists believe that what they are observing in couples who endorse these and similar sentiments are strongly selective memories that ignore inevitable negative events over the course of marital history. Maybe a distorted view of your marriage that emphasises the positive and forgets the negative is crucial to accounting for who stays and who flees when it comes to relationship endurance.
So, the boyfriend who constantly forgets things like your birthdayÂ might just be perfect husband material!