Comments on: My Yearly “Fat” Post http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/ the personal blog of Neil Kramer Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:02:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Amy http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241241 Amy Tue, 09 Feb 2010 21:31:37 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241241 I spent many years becoming comfortable in my own skin. I really thought I was there, but I recently was n a relationship with a man who thought it was ok to say very cruel things about my weight & body... probably because for some reason I never told him it wasn't ok (but you would think the tears would be a clue). I found myself actually trying NOT to loose weight when I was with him. I thought if I lost weight he would think he "won", all the while I was only hurting myself with this behavior and staying with him. To this day I still do not know why I allowed someone to treat me in this way. I spent many years becoming comfortable in my own skin. I really thought I was there, but I recently was n a relationship with a man who thought it was ok to say very cruel things about my weight & body… probably because for some reason I never told him it wasn’t ok (but you would think the tears would be a clue). I found myself actually trying NOT to loose weight when I was with him. I thought if I lost weight he would think he “won”, all the while I was only hurting myself with this behavior and staying with him. To this day I still do not know why I allowed someone to treat me in this way.

]]> By: leah http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241176 leah Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:49:48 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241176 excellent post neil, the important thing is it's being talked about. if people could leave emotions out of it, it's possible that we can actually find solutions to the obesity problem. especially in kids b/c that's where it all starts. excellent post neil, the important thing is it’s being talked about. if people could leave emotions out of it, it’s possible that we can actually find solutions to the obesity problem. especially in kids b/c that’s where it all starts.

]]> By: Loukia http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241168 Loukia Mon, 01 Feb 2010 20:46:49 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241168 I've struggled with weight loss for such a long time, and I'm always on one diet or another. It's not fun, to maintain a healthy body weight. For some people, it's easy - for me - being Greek and passionate about food - it's hard! I’ve struggled with weight loss for such a long time, and I’m always on one diet or another. It’s not fun, to maintain a healthy body weight. For some people, it’s easy – for me – being Greek and passionate about food – it’s hard!

]]> By: Jessica Gottlieb http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241152 Jessica Gottlieb Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:31:39 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241152 Oops, going should read dying. Auto spell check isn't my friend tonight. Oops, going should read dying. Auto spell check isn’t my friend tonight.

]]> By: Jessica Gottlieb http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241151 Jessica Gottlieb Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:30:58 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241151 I'm not sure if I should thank you or not. FYI it's not just women. It's not about how you look, it's about shortening your lifespan and killing your children. Morbid Obesity means that you are going from fat. It's a health issue, just like smoking or drinking too much. I'm 5'6", if I wore a size 14 I would be obese. That is a medical term and has nothing to do with sisterhood or fashion. FYI men... if you want your penis to look bigger... loose the belly fat. I’m not sure if I should thank you or not. FYI it’s not just women. It’s not about how you look, it’s about shortening your lifespan and killing your children.

Morbid Obesity means that you are going from fat. It’s a health issue, just like smoking or drinking too much.

I’m 5’6″, if I wore a size 14 I would be obese. That is a medical term and has nothing to do with sisterhood or fashion.

FYI men… if you want your penis to look bigger… loose the belly fat.

]]> By: sarawr http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241145 sarawr Sun, 31 Jan 2010 21:01:52 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241145 Well, I say that being blonde is not okay. Also, being short is not okay. I mean, as long as we're deciding what is "okay" for other people's bodies and all. Well, I say that being blonde is not okay. Also, being short is not okay. I mean, as long as we’re deciding what is “okay” for other people’s bodies and all.

]]> By: Neil http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241143 Neil Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:21:00 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241143 Are you saying there's no fat discimination? And I don't understand bringing your daughter into the argument? Of course we want our children to be healthy, but if your daughter comes home crying that the other girls are mean to her and call her names because she is bigger than them, are you going to tell her that these girls are right? And I thought you were immortal. Sorry. Are you saying there’s no fat discimination? And I don’t understand bringing your daughter into the argument? Of course we want our children to be healthy, but if your daughter comes home crying that the other girls are mean to her and call her names because she is bigger than them, are you going to tell her that these girls are right?

And I thought you were immortal. Sorry.

]]> By: Maria http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241141 Maria Sun, 31 Jan 2010 16:04:22 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241141 Being fat is not okay and calling the knowledge of that fact bigotry annoys me. It is not bigotry, and to say that it is insulting to those who experience the real thing. If you're fat and you want to change it, you can. You may have to work harder (I know from experience, definitely) than others, but it can be done. If you want to accept how you are kudos, but don't start some movement that's going to teach MY daughters that's it's ok. It's not ok. And it's immoral, not immortal Neil! :P Being fat is not okay and calling the knowledge of that fact bigotry annoys me. It is not bigotry, and to say that it is insulting to those who experience the real thing.

If you’re fat and you want to change it, you can. You may have to work harder (I know from experience, definitely) than others, but it can be done. If you want to accept how you are kudos, but don’t start some movement that’s going to teach MY daughters that’s it’s ok. It’s not ok.

And it’s immoral, not immortal Neil! :P

]]> By: Nat http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241080 Nat Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:40:22 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241080 As long as the orgasms can be of the do-it-yourself kind, then yes, I'm in support of that. I agree - why are some women so unsupportive? Why do we judge? How is it we live in a society where we know it's bad to discriminate for any reason...except, no fatties? Bah! Sometimes I hate people. Then I read awesome blogs posts like yours and people become a'ight again. As long as the orgasms can be of the do-it-yourself kind, then yes, I’m in support of that. I agree – why are some women so unsupportive? Why do we judge? How is it we live in a society where we know it’s bad to discriminate for any reason…except, no fatties? Bah! Sometimes I hate people. Then I read awesome blogs posts like yours and people become a’ight again.

]]> By: Megan http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2010/01/25/my-yearly-fat-post/comment-page-1/#comment-241079 Megan Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:27:43 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/?p=6562#comment-241079 "Be Nice." I love that you say that because, in the end, all these debates need a heavy dose of it. Fat vs thin. Working Mom vs. Stay at Home Mom. Natural childbirth vs. epidurals. Batman vs. Superman. Jeez. We all just need to be nice. We don't have to agree, but all the judging is too damn much. And I am totally on board with judging people's happiness by the number of orgasms. If we're all competing that way, at least we're having a whole lot more fun doing it. “Be Nice.”

I love that you say that because, in the end, all these debates need a heavy dose of it. Fat vs thin. Working Mom vs. Stay at Home Mom. Natural childbirth vs. epidurals. Batman vs. Superman. Jeez. We all just need to be nice. We don’t have to agree, but all the judging is too damn much.

And I am totally on board with judging people’s happiness by the number of orgasms. If we’re all competing that way, at least we’re having a whole lot more fun doing it.

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