Comments on: I’ve Learned to Hug http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/ Neil Kramer is a writer in Los Angeles (well, New York now). Citizen of the Month is his blog. Make yourself at home. Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:44:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Not functioning well at LVGurl http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214510 Not functioning well at LVGurl Tue, 04 Sep 2007 04:24:40 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214510 [...] was very sweet and so gracious.  I spent a good amount of time chatting and chuckling with Neil of Citizen of the Month fame.  (Pssst!  Neil!  Did we win that raffle?)  I also enjoyed catching up with Sarah (Miss [...] [...] was very sweet and so gracious.  I spent a good amount of time chatting and chuckling with Neil of Citizen of the Month fame.  (Pssst!  Neil!  Did we win that raffle?)  I also enjoyed catching up with Sarah (Miss [...]

]]> By: tiff http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214455 tiff Fri, 31 Aug 2007 19:47:29 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214455 Re: types of hugs Women do not pat each other's backs, men do (twice, then the release). Neither one rubs the other person's back (see lovers below) Lovers hug with their crotches as well as with their arms. They also rub each other's bacs briefly Crushes hug chestally, and when done look into each other's eyes. Um, let's see. Strangershug through the upper chest area. being sure to keep the groins separate. The hug lasts about 2 sconds and when its done the huggers separate completely. No lingering hand-holding, no shoulder patting nothing like that. Oh, I'm sur there's more, but I'm trying to remember what I read about hugs just a day or so ag, and I'm not getting it all regurgitated. Sorry 'bout dat. Re: types of hugs

Women do not pat each other’s backs, men do (twice, then the release). Neither one rubs the other person’s back (see lovers below)

Lovers hug with their crotches as well as with their arms. They also rub each other’s bacs briefly

Crushes hug chestally, and when done look into each other’s eyes.

Um, let’s see.

Strangershug through the upper chest area. being sure to keep the groins separate. The hug lasts about 2 sconds and when its done the huggers separate completely. No lingering hand-holding, no shoulder patting nothing like that.

Oh, I’m sur there’s more, but I’m trying to remember what I read about hugs just a day or so ag, and I’m not getting it all regurgitated. Sorry ’bout dat.

]]> By: tamarika http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214446 tamarika Fri, 31 Aug 2007 13:30:46 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214446 Hey! Did you hug me? I can't remember. Memory fades... Hey! Did you hug me? I can’t remember. Memory fades…

]]> By: Neil http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214377 Neil Thu, 30 Aug 2007 17:16:02 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214377 Danny -- It really was great. You should read some of the reviews from local bloggers. There are some music lovers who thought seeing Wilco was akin to meeting Jesus: Here's one example -- "Well, I'm not going to lie about it. Wilco has just about perfected live music performance. The playing was pretty much flawless. Their setup looks amazing. The sound and the mix is immaculate. They knocked me out. There were times that I was just floored by the nuance I was hearing out of each instrument. Normally, I don't like it when a band plays note for note what's on an album, but somehow Wilco's newest record (and a lot of their old stuff) is meant for just that. I know that the idea with Sky Blue Sky was to only record things as a band that they would be able to replicate live, instead of relying on overdubs and studio tricks. I didn't really know what that meant until tonight. It means that they're America's greatest rock band. I really believe that. There is no other band in America that can do what Wilco did last night. There is no other band that can make the music on their records live with the level of craftsmanship and intelligence that Wilco provides. It was an amazing show. I only wish that they'd played at a venue that would have let them play past 10:30. Then again, I can't get greedy for the Tweedy. Thanks for the great show, Wilco." Danny — It really was great. You should read some of the reviews from local bloggers. There are some music lovers who thought seeing Wilco was akin to meeting Jesus:

Here’s one example –

“Well, I’m not going to lie about it. Wilco has just about perfected live music performance. The playing was pretty much flawless. Their setup looks amazing. The sound and the mix is immaculate. They knocked me out.

There were times that I was just floored by the nuance I was hearing out of each instrument. Normally, I don’t like it when a band plays note for note what’s on an album, but somehow Wilco’s newest record (and a lot of their old stuff) is meant for just that. I know that the idea with Sky Blue Sky was to only record things as a band that they would be able to replicate live, instead of relying on overdubs and studio tricks. I didn’t really know what that meant until tonight. It means that they’re America’s greatest rock band. I really believe that. There is no other band in America that can do what Wilco did last night. There is no other band that can make the music on their records live with the level of craftsmanship and intelligence that Wilco provides. It was an amazing show. I only wish that they’d played at a venue that would have let them play past 10:30.

Then again, I can’t get greedy for the Tweedy. Thanks for the great show, Wilco.”

]]> By: Danny http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214375 Danny Thu, 30 Aug 2007 16:25:50 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214375 You definitely looked like you fit the Wilco vibe, Neil. Except you weren't smoking pot. There were so many smokers around us last night that we all got contact highs, even my 12-year-old daughter. I'm sorry you couldn't make it to the after-party, I was looking forward to your Dooce smackdown. I saw James Spader too but am bummed I missed Catherine Keener and Sandra Oh. And I never really got my hug which you still owe me. You definitely looked like you fit the Wilco vibe, Neil. Except you weren’t smoking pot. There were so many smokers around us last night that we all got contact highs, even my 12-year-old daughter. I’m sorry you couldn’t make it to the after-party, I was looking forward to your Dooce smackdown. I saw James Spader too but am bummed I missed Catherine Keener and Sandra Oh. And I never really got my hug which you still owe me.

]]> By: Eileen http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214374 Eileen Thu, 30 Aug 2007 15:58:28 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214374 Love the art- love it. You'll have to show the final piece. Love the art- love it. You’ll have to show the final piece.

]]> By: Fashion Minute http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214373 Fashion Minute Thu, 30 Aug 2007 15:20:21 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214373 Carefull... affection is contagious. You may just have started "Hug APpreciation Day." Carefull… affection is contagious. You may just have started “Hug APpreciation Day.”

]]> By: Neil http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214372 Neil Thu, 30 Aug 2007 15:16:12 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214372 Nabbalicious -- Yes, the parking was awful. I got there an hour early because I'm used to the parking at these venues already. Had an eight dollar hot dog and diet Coke at my seat. But getting out of there took longer than the show. And you were right about the insanity of looking for a guy with a beard. I've never seen so many beards in one place. And men with glasses! I actually felt uncomfortable fitting into the band's demographics too well. Sorry I didn't get too talk with you. Or meet Dooce. But I saw James Spader. And my shirt looked exactly like those of the ushers, so I had three people ask me to show them to their seats. I didn't have enough nerve to hug them, though. Thanks Danny! Nabbalicious — Yes, the parking was awful. I got there an hour early because I’m used to the parking at these venues already. Had an eight dollar hot dog and diet Coke at my seat. But getting out of there took longer than the show.

And you were right about the insanity of looking for a guy with a beard. I’ve never seen so many beards in one place. And men with glasses! I actually felt uncomfortable fitting into the band’s demographics too well.

Sorry I didn’t get too talk with you. Or meet Dooce. But I saw James Spader. And my shirt looked exactly like those of the ushers, so I had three people ask me to show them to their seats. I didn’t have enough nerve to hug them, though.

Thanks Danny!

]]> By: churlita http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214371 churlita Thu, 30 Aug 2007 15:08:14 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214371 I would totally hug Danny too if he invited me to see Wilco at the Greek Theater. I would totally hug Danny too if he invited me to see Wilco at the Greek Theater.

]]> By: nabbalicious http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214370 nabbalicious Thu, 30 Aug 2007 15:06:42 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2007/08/29/ive-learned-to-hug/#comment-214370 All right, I missed you. The parking situation at the Greek is a nightmare! We wound up not getting there until the middle of "I Am Trying to Break Your Heart." Grrr. Also, no Dooce sightings. But I DID see Sandra Oh! Neil, were you the guy with the lighter? Awesome show -- Jeff really seemed to be on and enjoying himself! Plus, any show that features "Via Chicago" is automatically worth the price of admission. Hope you had a good time, and I'll catch you at the next show! All right, I missed you. The parking situation at the Greek is a nightmare! We wound up not getting there until the middle of “I Am Trying to Break Your Heart.” Grrr. Also, no Dooce sightings. But I DID see Sandra Oh!

Neil, were you the guy with the lighter?

Awesome show — Jeff really seemed to be on and enjoying himself! Plus, any show that features “Via Chicago” is automatically worth the price of admission. Hope you had a good time, and I’ll catch you at the next show!

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