Comments on: Old People Who Do It http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/ Neil Kramer is a writer in Los Angeles (well, New York now). Citizen of the Month is his blog. Make yourself at home. Fri, 05 Dec 2008 09:39:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Nelumbo http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-66080 Nelumbo Mon, 05 Jun 2006 03:08:08 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-66080 "I like movies with lots of lovemaking" - My grandmother at age 70+. We were discussing movies and she thought "Good Will Hunting" was a dirty, horrible movie because people said f***k all the time, but Piano was one of her favorite movies because people were f***king all the time. I just don't get it. “I like movies with lots of lovemaking” - My grandmother at age 70+.

We were discussing movies and she thought “Good Will Hunting” was a dirty, horrible movie because people said f***k all the time, but Piano was one of her favorite movies because people were f***king all the time.

I just don’t get it.

]]> By: Carly http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-65296 Carly Fri, 02 Jun 2006 17:51:28 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-65296 "Are we so afraid of getting old that we push the elderly into some sort of one-dimensional world?" Exactly. We're always afraid of the unknown, and so it's easier to deal with if we compartamentalize it into something we think we can understand. Typically, the elderly are charachterized as being frail and close to death at a certain age, whether they are or not. I think it's about time we stopped writing them off as not being a vital part of society, 'cause I know I don't want to be hidden away in a home and fed pablum when I hit a certain age. I wanna enjoy beaches and steaks and all the other stuff I enjoy now. “Are we so afraid of getting old that we push the elderly into some sort of one-dimensional world?”

Exactly. We’re always afraid of the unknown, and so it’s easier to deal with if we compartamentalize it into something we think we can understand. Typically, the elderly are charachterized as being frail and close to death at a certain age, whether they are or not. I think it’s about time we stopped writing them off as not being a vital part of society, ’cause I know I don’t want to be hidden away in a home and fed pablum when I hit a certain age. I wanna enjoy beaches and steaks and all the other stuff I enjoy now.

]]> By: Melissa http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64966 Melissa Thu, 01 Jun 2006 15:12:04 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64966 How come Mom can only f*ck Jewish men? How come Mom can only f*ck Jewish men?

]]> By: party girl http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64965 party girl Thu, 01 Jun 2006 15:03:27 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64965 It's funny how, even with all the images that are thrown at us, we don't think anyone else is having sex. Especially well into their 50's and over. I posted yesterday about oral sex and mothers and daughters. Everyone was disgusted. My comment back was, 'well we all got here somehow...' It’s funny how, even with all the images that are thrown at us, we don’t think anyone else is having sex. Especially well into their 50’s and over.
I posted yesterday about oral sex and mothers and daughters. Everyone was disgusted.
My comment back was, ‘well we all got here somehow…’

]]> By: Sarah http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64961 Sarah Thu, 01 Jun 2006 14:33:56 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64961 Great post. I guess I am one of the strange people out there who never thought my parents having sex was something weird or shameful. My daughter (she's 10) got freaked out when I told her that Grandma and Papa probably still had sex (I swear it was relevant to our conversation). I myself used to be so happy if I overheard them going at it when I was a kid, because to me it meant they still loved each other. My grandmother found a boyfriend 12 years her junior after my grandfather died at 76. At the time (I was 19) I thought they were having sex and it made me so happy! I found out after she died 14 months ago that she apparently hated sex. I guess I didn't get my sex drive from her. ;-) Great post. I guess I am one of the strange people out there who never thought my parents having sex was something weird or shameful. My daughter (she’s 10) got freaked out when I told her that Grandma and Papa probably still had sex (I swear it was relevant to our conversation).
I myself used to be so happy if I overheard them going at it when I was a kid, because to me it meant they still loved each other.
My grandmother found a boyfriend 12 years her junior after my grandfather died at 76. At the time (I was 19) I thought they were having sex and it made me so happy! I found out after she died 14 months ago that she apparently hated sex.
I guess I didn’t get my sex drive from her. ;-)

]]> By: tiff http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64959 tiff Thu, 01 Jun 2006 14:19:22 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64959 My brother and I recently freaked ourselves out by thinking that, in 20 years, we'll be in our 60's. At that point, I'll probably STILL think I'm 26, like I do now, and so likely will still be bumping boots with someone and acting nutso.... My brother and I recently freaked ourselves out by thinking that, in 20 years, we’ll be in our 60’s. At that point, I’ll probably STILL think I’m 26, like I do now, and so likely will still be bumping boots with someone and acting nutso….

]]> By: ChickyBabe http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64899 ChickyBabe Thu, 01 Jun 2006 06:55:36 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64899 Good post Neil. Humour aside for a moment, I think you have a valid point. We tend to categorise OTHERS without looking at ourselves first. It's the fear of getting old but the fact remains we've been doing it all our lives, getting older each day at a time. Of course, I'm going to be a cool and sexy old lady who will be perving at young men until the end. Me grow old? Never! :P Good post Neil. Humour aside for a moment, I think you have a valid point. We tend to categorise OTHERS without looking at ourselves first. It’s the fear of getting old but the fact remains we’ve been doing it all our lives, getting older each day at a time.

Of course, I’m going to be a cool and sexy old lady who will be perving at young men until the end. Me grow old? Never! :P

]]> By: Fitèna http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64897 Fitèna Thu, 01 Jun 2006 06:52:16 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64897 My maternal granma passed away when I was 2 years old. Am named after her and people keep telling me about her and how great she was and that I have to be worthy of her name. It's a great load to carry but its also an incentive to be good. There's an african writer who said that when an old person dies, its a whole <i>bibliothèque</i> which goes in smoke. I love being with old persons. I have no idea why, but I just love it. My neighbour is 90something. She was fit before her husband passed away 2 years ago. I think she's letting herself go. She has no children and she's so lonely it hurts. Here in Mauritius, when you turn 100, your family throws a big party which the Minister of Social Security and Senior Citizen's Welfare attend. It's a circus where the Birthday oldy is given Rs 10000 (around $350) and a mobile phone. Can you believe that? A mobile phone! Fitèna PS: I love the picture! My maternal granma passed away when I was 2 years old. Am named after her and people keep telling me about her and how great she was and that I have to be worthy of her name. It’s a great load to carry but its also an incentive to be good.
There’s an african writer who said that when an old person dies, its a whole bibliothèque which goes in smoke. I love being with old persons. I have no idea why, but I just love it. My neighbour is 90something. She was fit before her husband passed away 2 years ago. I think she’s letting herself go. She has no children and she’s so lonely it hurts.
Here in Mauritius, when you turn 100, your family throws a big party which the Minister of Social Security and Senior Citizen’s Welfare attend. It’s a circus where the Birthday oldy is given Rs 10000 (around $350) and a mobile phone. Can you believe that? A mobile phone!

Fitèna

PS: I love the picture!

]]> By: Bill http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64890 Bill Thu, 01 Jun 2006 05:59:09 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64890 By the way ... I'll add this thought: I don't think young people have any problems at all with age. It's middle aged people who treat them like dirt because it scares the crap out of them. By the way … I’ll add this thought: I don’t think young people have any problems at all with age. It’s middle aged people who treat them like dirt because it scares the crap out of them.

]]> By: Bill http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64889 Bill Thu, 01 Jun 2006 05:57:28 +0000 http://www.citizenofthemonth.com/2006/05/31/old-people-who-do-it/#comment-64889 A post like this sparks many notions. The two that are currently floating in my head (not sure what they mean - they're just notions): 1) why do so few people look old? With all the dyed hair and nip & tuck business, you realy don't see that many people who actually look older - not the way they did when I was much younger. 2) why are the most interesting characters in so many films the older, supporting actors? The leads are templates and dull because of that - but the supporting characters, often played by older actors, that's where the meat is. So why are we so dismissive of age when it's so much more interesting? A post like this sparks many notions. The two that are currently floating in my head (not sure what they mean - they’re just notions):

1) why do so few people look old? With all the dyed hair and nip & tuck business, you realy don’t see that many people who actually look older - not the way they did when I was much younger.

2) why are the most interesting characters in so many films the older, supporting actors? The leads are templates and dull because of that - but the supporting characters, often played by older actors, that’s where the meat is.

So why are we so dismissive of age when it’s so much more interesting?

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