Comments on: 138th Post About Sophia

By: introspectre

introspectre — Wed, 31 Aug 2005 19:22:07 +0000

I’m with Sophia on this. Anyone who couldn’t be bothered with posts that are “too long” doesn’t have a whole hell of a lot of an attention span.

Can you say “would suck in bed”? I know you can!

ps) I met my fiance on lavalife. No point, just saying…

By: Megan

Megan — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 22:39:06 +0000

Whenever I read your posts about Sophia, I always think to myself, “Self, too bad you don’t live in LA anymore. I bet Sophia would be fun to go to lunch with.” I think I’d get along with her. She’s spunky.

I love your relationship with each other. I think some of us can relate to it. It sounds like my ex and me. IMO, it doesn’t matter if you guys stay together or get divorced, you’re lucky to have found each other.

By: Helena

Helena — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 21:55:06 +0000

This sounds very much like the relationship I had with my ex after we split. For two years, we told each other about dates, relied on each other for emotional support, and stayed close…under the guise that we were just friends. We constantly bashed bad dates to each other. We would ask with “mock” jealousy how they went.

I was shocked and hurt when one of these bad dates became his girlfriend a few months down the line. I had lulled myself into a false sense of security, and lied to myself about the depths of my feelings for him. The truth is that I never really began to move on until we stopped talking. As much as love made me want him to be in my life forever, my friend forever, there has to be time to heal and start over…otherwise I can flirt, I can date, I can do all these things…but in my heart, I am not any closer to really moving on.

I don’t know if any of that sounds familiar, and I’m sorry for the long comment. But so much of your posting about Sophia, and the way she interacts with you, reminds me of that relationship.

By: lizriz

lizriz — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 19:48:55 +0000

I’m going to have a really old-fashioned girl moment and say that I really can’t believe that separated people date.

Whew, I feel better now.

By: amanda

amanda — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 19:14:03 +0000

haha…this made me laugh…i wouldn’t go out with someone who didn’t like your blog either!

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 18:26:21 +0000

I think that’s great that she sent him here. I haven’t read the other 137 posts about Sophia, but if there are that many, it sounds like you still have some feelings in there. And Sophia, if you’re sending potential suitors here and you’re not even divorced yet, you must still have some feelings fluffing up for Neil…

Perhaps I’m wrong…but about these things, I’m usually not. Cocky bitch, aren’t I? Whoops!

By: mary

mary — Mon, 29 Aug 2005 05:56:33 +0000

I’m mostly concerned with the fact that blogs are so wide-spread that people know what they like/don’t like about them. What happened to the good ol’ days when people would say, “You write about yourself? Online???”
My ex-husband and I went through a phase like that, too, and he still tells me way too much. I say its too much only b/c his stories are boring. You guys will find your way, whatever that may be.

By: anonymous city girl

anonymous city girl — Sun, 28 Aug 2005 05:10:09 +0000

The more I think about… I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy “gets it”, and may have even enjoyed Neil’s writing (hard not to)… but he also may have just realized from the post that are akin to love letters to Sophia and Sophia’s posts in the comment section that these two lives are still closely intertwined.

I am not saying that they should or shouldn’t be, but having a potential date read about it is intimidating. Who wants to go out with someone, know that their closest confidant is their spouse? You know every move you make, you know will be discussed with a person they once took vows with. That is a big pill to swallow.

By: M.A.

M.A. — Sun, 28 Aug 2005 04:12:06 +0000

I think that your blog is smart and intellectual. And I think I get it. It’s a good thing that that other dude didn’t get it, right?

By: anonymous city girl

anonymous city girl — Sun, 28 Aug 2005 03:45:14 +0000

Sophia-
You sent a potential date to your husband’s blog where he gushes about you on occasion?
Interesting pre-date activity.